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The most important ingredient in Love


Some people tend to think that as long as there's love, nothing else matters. It's all they need.
But how many people have been so in love but still ended up not working out... many!!
It gets people wondering what could possibly be greater than love ?!?! Some people even stop believing in love thinking it's overrated.
Well here's the thing about love, both partners want to feel appreciated, acknowledged, respected, understood... all that..it is what forms the bond in a relationship.
But there's also that other side of every human being that doesn't want to fail, everyone wants to win or at least die trying; we all want to be right, have the superior opinions, win the arguments. It boosts our ego, makes us feel valuable, indispensable.
So what happens in a relationship; what breaks them..
It's easier to receive/ take than give as it is less risky, less demanding, I mean all you have to do is sit back, relax and receive. Humans are however reciprocal creatures; they give in the hopes that they will receive in equal or greater value. So obviously in the absence of reciprocity, love fails.
Arguments are normal in relationships but it's not the argument in itself that compromises a relationship, it is rather the inability to solve the issue.. and why.. no one likes admitting to being wrong, you want your partner to maintain a high opinion about you, we think love means our partners ignoring our flaws only seeing our best parts.
Every partner wants to think they are superior in the relationship. You want to be the one your partner can't live without, can't afford to loose. We want to be the most important thing to our partners and it's easy to get sucked in and become self obsessed leaving one partner feeling degraded breaking the connection.

What am I really tryna say here;  there's one ingredient in love that helps to overcome most, if not all challenges

I'm talking about COMPROMISE

Just think about it, it is exactly what partners need. understanding each other, levelling with each other. Every human is different and needs to be understood in their own way. Compromise means taking time to understand your partners needs and finding a way to merge them with yours.
This way you're able to give more, admit when you're wrong and appreciate your partner they way they deserve to be appreciated.
Its okay to give a bit of yourself to make it work.
#makeitwork

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