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Man Up!


Word around town is that totally straight dudes are finding it hard to behave like the men they are. We can't have straight dudes behaving like chics!! Dr. 💚 just had to step in!!
So..there are those dudes who just find it hard to man up in relationships; could be they are the shy type, they are so in love they don't know how to behave...but not anymore..Geejay to the rescue!!
So here is a little secret you need to know..."Its the little acts that count!" You don't need a great deal of courage to pull it off.

Lower your voice

I used to see most of my dude acquaintances do this when they talked to chics. I kept on asking why but no one told me. I embarked on my mini research and found this out; the silent dudes who are not so loud and noisy are the most attractive, they say little but the little they say has quite a lot of impact.
Try lowering your voice but not too much such that they have to struggle so much to get what you are saying, just enough to really capture their attention.

Use your hands

Chics love to be touched in just the right places. You don't always have to use words to convey  your feelings, your hands are a great asset! Just slipping your hand around her waist sends a message that you are thinking of her or you can take care of her.
You could find out which places turn her on or try new things..BUT..you can never do too much of this, it might risk becoming irritating..

Stop asking

let me just clarify that.. this applies when certain conditions come together at a particular moment. When the mood is right and you are both all in there is no need to ask. You know she is all in when she is calm and not trying to resist. Her body language could also suggest that she is waiting for you to do it.
Check for this for when you want to kiss, hug, touch her and just go in for it.. asking her permission will kill the mood and will be less manly. You should be able to gauge if she wants to or not, asking might also not give an accurate answer since a chic will rarely say  'yes' to avoid looking desperate or easy-going...you get it now?..

Take the bill

When you are together, try as many times as possible to take the bill. Pay for things you use together.
The trick is to chose to take her out or meet with her when you are able to handle the costs. You could also chose the places to take her according to your budget.

Hold it in

You can't cry in her presence. Keep you cool, be the stronger one. You can hold it in then do it some other place when she is not around that is if you have to..
This also applies to getting horny...yeah i said it.. you just can't go around getting horny all the time, there are times when you just have to suck it up.
When you get mad at her don't just act out. Try and conceal your anger for as long as you can. Getting mad is more of a female thing.

Chivalry

This particularly depicts you as a gentleman which in turn adds a charming aspect to you. This includes very simple stuff like opening the door, offering your coat when it's cold, pulling her chair...i mean it doesn't take courage to do that! 

Offset attention

Avoid drawing to much attention to yourself. Its not manly... 
What exactly do i mean?.. Don't be the one who's taking more selfies, leave that to her it's a 'female fetish'. You can't be bragging...ok, unless in it's your blood i.e you're in Obama, Lupita's bloodline if you know what i mean😉..but that's still not an excuse..talk less of yourself and more of her..

Be cool about it

Here it's all about your reactions. You can't go saying 'Awww!' or screaming ...like really.. 
Revenge is totally not your thing find other ways of dealing with your shit. You could talk it out, it's a more civil way. Spying on her is a big NO!..stalking her social media,monitoring her every move and interactions...this is just super duper disgusting! and a big turn-off..

Ya'll dudes being manly is very very attractive feature you just gotta have.  i gave you the secrets so try and do the rest..

Lots of Love💞

Be the man


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