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How To Treat Her Special


Y'all dudes be like, 'how i treat her isn't really an issue, what matters the most is how i feel about
her'. C'mon!.. who are you kidding...If you treat her the same way you treat everyone else, how does she know she is special to you? Actions speak louder remember..
So now that we've established that she needs to be treated special, let's find out exactly how to do that.

Call MORE!
Calling comes out as more romantic than texting. When you call her, it shows that you are thinking about her a lot, you love talking to her and that you also really care about her.
Call her in the morning when she's just waking up; this will totally give her an awesome start to her day. Throughout the day you should also call like twice to check on her or just to remind her how much she means to you. Then call her just before she goes to bed and make her night. All this could be accompanied by in between texting which will obviously make her smile each time she sees your texts.When texting, make sure you reply her texts almost instantly, this shows her she is your priority.

Hold her.

It's one thing to hold her but you need to know how to do it. By just holding her, you are only recognizing that she is there...how you hold her however, shows her how you feel about her.
First you need to hold her a lot when she is with you, like you can't keep your hands off  her. That shows her you enjoy her company and you love being with her.
If she is special to you, this is how you hold her;
Grab her by the waist and pull her towards you-this may be when you are hugging her or if you are with her in a group of your friends, this is a great way of letting them know that she is yours and also making her feel included.
Wrap her in your arms and let her rest on your chest-this can be done when she is probably feeling low and you want to comfort/console her or when you are watching a movie with her, this helps her be more relaxed and feel safe.
Hold her hand and rub it gently- this could be done when you two are having dinner or when she is nervous to assure her that you are with her so she could have more confidence.

Look into her eyes.

By doing this you show her that you are concentrating on her and her alone, like she's the only one that matters. You'll be amazed how much it works if done when she is talking to you. This is also the trick if you want to tell her something emotional, intimate or serious.

Introduce her WITH a title.

When you meet someone you know when you are with her, make sure you introduce her. Through your introduction, it should clearly come out that she is someone special to you.

NEVER pass up Valentine's Day.

Considering the purpose of Valentine's day, it really matters whether you do something for her on this day or not. By doing for her something special on this day, it shows that she means quite a lot to you because you have chosen her over everyone else on that day.
Take full advantage of this day and do something that will leave her lovestruck for quite some time.

Engage in her activities.


Try and take part in her activities from time to time. You could surprise her by cooking for or with her or even by joining her when she goes jogging. You could also do this by bringing up issues she had discussed with you in earlier conversations which she probably thought you had already forgotten. This shows her that she is an important part in your life.

Surprise her with gifts.

Giving her gifts on days when she is not expecting any makes her feel special as it indicates that you were actually thinking about her. It also shows that you appreciate her being in your life.

Take the bill.

Always try and take the bill when you are with her. From the bus fare to the restaurant bill, when you clear the bills it shows that you want to take care of her and ensure she is comfortable.

Give her the spontaneous forehead kiss.

This could be interpreted differently depending on how it is executed. When done well, it makes her feel really special. How then should it be done?  It should be completely out of the blues and when you are holding her. She has to be engaged in some sort of activity when you do it, for example you could be watching something with her. The message this sends is that you are thinking about her and that you acknowledge she is indeed special to you.

Engage her.

Make her feel like she is part of your life. Do this by getting her involved in you activities, asking for advice from her or letting her know when something important happens in your life. This is a way of showing her you need her in your life.

There is always TIME for her!

She just has to fit into your schedule, you can never be too busy for her. Yeah, i know you're thinking that this is impossible ,especially if you really have a packed day, but it's not. The trick is to tell her how your day or week will be in advance before she even suggests anything.This way it won't seem like you are making up an excuse for not being able to get time for her. After doing that find time to call or text her during your busy day and it will give her the impression that you always have time for her.

DITCH the phone craze.


Whenever you are with her, she has to be your main priority. You have to resist the urge to be on your phone by all means possible. However, if you really really have to, the trick is to acknowledge her while you're at it. For example if you're making or receiving a phone call, talk while; looking at her and probably smiling, holding and rubbing her gently or during the conversation, mention that you are with some special someone and make sure she hears it then pull her towards you and wrap her in your arms and you could also give her the forehead kiss here..
If it's texting, you could tell her to do it for you or do it when she is seeing what you are typing. This way you are including her and giving her no reason to doubt you.
If it is social media, check it with her so you could get to laugh at funny posts together then afterwards you can even post a selfie of you and her when done and accompany it with a killer tagline.

 Do the Gentleman stuff.

It all goes back to this, the traditional ways of making her feel special;
In the bus let her take the window seat so you seat on the edge. This gives the impression that you want to protect her.
Open any door for her. Whether it's the car or you are entering a mall or the house or a restaurant, be the one to open the door for her.
Give her your coat when it gets cold.
Hold up the umbrella for her when it is raining. Make sure she is well covered even if it means you being rained on.
Pull the chair for her.

Well,.. now you know how to make her feel like a princess!! So...what are you waiting for?? Go now and show her just how much she means to you.

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