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Valentine Love




I totally made that word up but give me a chance to explain it to you…
Valentine’s is considered THE day of love; a day when people express and celebrate their love for each other.  Some people don’t buy into the idea feeling like there’s no need to have a day to do something that should actually be done every single day. I actually am for the idea of valentine’s; a day to do something just a little extra.

Valentine’s however present an idea of a ceremonial love, expressing love on specific occasions then going back to a lull, being comfortable and not putting in extra effort. This could be birthdays, holidays… special occasions.

So what really is a valentine love? A love that is inconsistent, absent most of the time, only presented as a gift when it’s convenient… just enough to keep the fire from dying out but not really adding any wood to fuel it.

This kind of love slowly gets toxic and becomes an obsession, an addiction. It’s harder to leave when the droplets of love come in on a ‘valentine’ and one starts second guessing leaving in the hopes that it will get better with time.

The idea of a valentine is okay but living in a valentine love is unhealthy; it’s not how love should be.
So do you get it now… I think I just invented a new legit term 😁

#everydayshouldbeValentine's


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