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wait😇 OR settle😐



I recently saw something that sent chills down my spine. You see the way people nowadays hold up signs saying "I need a job", well that one said "I need a husband".

It got me thinking of what could have possibly led to this situation and how to evade it..

Fun💃🍸

In their twenties, most girls are always saying NO to dudes that are interested in something serious with them especially when words like; marriage, future, kids are used.
They'd rather 'enjoy' in relationships that aren't serious because they are either afraid of commitment or feel like they are still too young to think of the future.
By the time they are finally ready to settle down, all the husbands have already been taken and they become frustrated and desperate.

My take;
Mental stability is all you need to go into a relationship. There is no specific age. Do not be             afraid to get into it when you feel you are mature enough to handle one. Remember this is                 mental maturity and not necessarily physical maturity.

Prince charming😍


We all have this fantasy of the kind of dude we want to end up with; tall, dark, 6-pack.... according to our desires. The kind of guy that makes jaws drop, one that we can show off and make others jealous.
We reject all the dudes that do not meet these standards because we are waiting for our prince charming or become afraid of settling for just anyone so that we are free when prince charming finally comes around.
But what if our prince charming doesn't at all look like what we think?
Most people have ended up being happily married to people that are completely different from what they'd dreamt of. 
But others have waited and gotten exactly what they dreamt of.
So should you wait or settle?

My take; 
If you are comfortable with that person who you do not consider your prince charming then I don't see why you should not be with them, give yourself a chance.
If you genuinely cannot be comfortable with that person, then stay away coz you will not be happy in the relationship

Career first⌚💲#


Well, there are also those who want to reach the heights of their careers first before they can even start thinking of settling down. 
Most of the time this never ends or ends in their thirties approaching the forties. These are the times we get to hear of difficulties in child bearing because women are most fertile in their twenties and in their forties they are already approaching menopause.

My take;
Career is important, yes, but pursue it in bits. It shouldn't take over your life. Take time to live your life and achieve other things in life as well. A partner can grow with you in your career as opposed to the assumption that they will just hold you back.
           
Catch 'em when you can! 😜

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