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LOVE...An Investment?🤔



Come to think of it, what is love?...Isn't it all about the time, gifts, attention you give to your partner. Every single thing you do for your partner either to win them over or keep them counts.
Isn't there an end goal or an expectation in doing all these? 
Don't we all expect that the more we give the more we will receive from our partners?
And what is an investment, isn't it the action of putting money, effort, time, etc. into something to make profit or get an advantage, or the money, effort, time, etc. used to do this. 
We however tend to convince ourselves that our actions are not essentially an investment but rather an expression of love.

We've all heard of  partners who've helped the other partner when they were not doing so well in life but get dumped when cette partner makes it big.
What happens? Can we say it's a case of falling out of love?..
It's just a case of poor communication between the partners.
Both parties should be really honest about their feelings and intentions.

Since most times the girl is the one being pursued;
 In case the dude is interested in something serious, hence the gestures, he should be able to make it completely clear to the girl so that there is no misinterpretation.
This way the girl will clearly understand the reason for the dudes gestures and not mistake them for him just being 'nice' or 'friendly'.
The girl is therefore supposed to tell the guy whether she is interested or not; if Yes, the dude can keep the gestures coming and ,if No, the dude should stop the gestures since they are never going to be reciprocated or lead to anything.

It's hard to say that, 'love is doing things for the one you love without expecting anything in return' because it nullifies the whole courtship stage where the partners engage in a romantic relationship with the end goal being either marriage or a long term relationship.

There are obviously two theories here about love;
  " love is an investment of feelings, emotions, efforts, time in the person one loves"
  " love is doing things for the one you love without expecting anything in return"

 Communication is key!😘

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