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🤷 Playing hard to get😏 OR just not interested 😒


We all have those moments when you just don't know how someone really feels about you. One moment you're thinking, they are probably just playing hard to get then they do something that gets you thinking they are totally uninterested and that you should back out. So let's just get the facts right and clear all those doubts we all have.
The key pointers can be spotted in these areas;

Conversations

It could be a phone call, text message or a face to face conversation, whichever it is.. you could pick up a lot. Let's see how..

playing hard to get:

First of all, they are able to have small talk with you which is often quite difficult for most people.
You could have a conversation which develops into an intimate one then they suddenly withdraw. If it is a text conversation, they will suddenly stop replying and for phone calls or face to face they would try changing the topic or giving in between answers where they are neither saying yes nor no.
In a group conversation where you are present, they either steal or hold stares then act like nothing happened.

not interested:

You are always the one initiating the conversation and never once in any way have they ever initiated any form of conversation with you.
It is also very hard to get them to actually have a conversation with you: they are always busy or they've got some place to be, they're always in a hurry!! 
 Even when you eventually manage to have a conversation with them, they don't contribute much, most of the time they are only answering to either questions or statements you are making. They are distracted for most part of the conversation. If its a face to face conversation, first of all their facial expression... i'll just use emoticons to illustrate ...so its either 😐 or 😟..meaning its either an expressionless face or like they can't wait for you to stop. Then  they are either on their phones or talking to other people around or trying to include these 'other people' into the conversation and slowly by slowly they withdraw and take advantage of the slightest opportunity to take off🏃.

Hanging out

Here the willingness to hang out and the person's attitude during that time is what matters.

playing hard to get:

It might be hard to get them to hang out but they eventually accept. They may really really enjoy their time with you but won't exactly tell you that they did. 

not interested:

You probably never get to hang out...they always have some excuse or reason for not being able to hang out. Let's say you eventually get to hang out, they will either be withdrawn or always checking the time for when they can leave. They will say they are busy or they have to be somewhere else or they need to be home early..just anything to give them the leeway to exit.

 

Meeting friends

This basically happens when you are with them then you meet with friends...may be theirs or yours.

playing hard to get:

When you meet their friends, they will introduce you and probably say you are a friend with a smile on their face. When you meet your friends, they won't mind you introducing them as a friend..they might react by saying, 'ooh! I am?..' or 'I didn't know that' or 'Aww!'💁 often with a smile on their face like they are flattered.

not interested:

They are not entirely jazzed about being with you so they don't want to be seen with you, leave alone being introduced or introducing you. With their friends, they will usually not introduce you or they would say you are just a neighbour/classmate/schoolmate/workmate or nobody. With your friends, they would make themselves busy so you won't have to introduce them and when you do, they will try to make it seem like you don't really have any relationship whatsoever. They might say, 'I'm nobody' or 'just a neighbour/classmate/schoolmate/workmate'.

 If you're still confused, just let things play out 😉

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