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Forbidden Love; The Age Factor


So let's first start with my own viewpoint on this issue;
I personally feel that the age difference really counts and should be considered in a relationship.

 This is why:

  • Too much of an age difference causes a conflict in the partners' interests and priorities. It will be hard to do activities or go places together.
  • Different motives of getting into the relationship. The issues of relationship goals also factors in here; one partner is in it for a long time commitment but the other is just doing it on the spur of the moment.
  • The much older partner tends to look down on the younger partner in terms of lesser experience and knowledge in matters of relationships. This creates a superior-inferior feeling among the partners which is not healthy in a relationship.
  • Little or no age difference at all is also kinda risky. The partners' mindsets are not far from different.They think almost the same way. This might bring in some sort of conflict in the relationship as the partners always seem to be in some sort of competition with each other.

Let's go back to the basics in a relationship;
The man ought to be somewhat superior in the relationship, this means he needs to be older than the woman. But the age difference is what makes or breaks the relationship, it should not be too big.

 My parting shot:

  • The man should be older in the relationship.
  • The age difference should range from 1yr to 9yrs.  A ten-year age difference will be too big, that is now in completely different age groups.


age is NOT just a number😏

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