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What They Really Mean…


Peeps be always struggling to decipher what people say versus what they mean. I feel like you almost usually just know it but choose to wallow in your fantasies hoping that one day they might come true.

So today i’mma share some of the phrases you’ve probably already heard and tell you exactly what they mean;

I have a…

It might seem harmless and just like someone is being super honest with you.. but are they really.. they are just being direct and sending a signal that they are really uninterested and see nothing happening there.  It's like putting up the walls before you have a chance to slip through them… setting up boundaries..

I don’t need your money..

Ideally when someone says this, they really mean that they want you to listen to them and understand them, their likes, their favourites. Instead of giving them money, they want you to do something thoughtful for them. It could be something like ordering a taxi for them instead of giving them money for the cab. They want you to be thoughtful and do something that shows how much you know and care about them.

Let’s be friends.

I feel like this one is the most common and everyone probably already knows what it means by now and dread hearing those words in that order. But I wanna give it like a different perspective coz at the end of the day people are different. The obvious meaning to this is that they aren’t interested in you romantically and you don’t have the slightest chance to change that fact either now or ever. There’s however another meaning I am picking from this coz someone could just tell you they aren’t interested instead of throwing this at you. This means they are probably scared or feel like they haven’t known you well enough to date you so they wanna keep you around to familiarize with you. So I guess you have a small window to determine your fate…emphasis on the small window.

It’s not you it’s me…

The most popular break up line! I feel it's getting abused since some people don’t even comprehend what this phrase means and are only jumping on it coz everyone else uses it and it looks like an easy way out. Lemme help you comprehend the magnitude of this phrase. It blatantly acknowledges the fact that someone has been and is still doing wrong by you intentionally and has no apology for it. They are in fact admitting it to you and it's more of just letting you know than putting forth a discussion. They don’t want to talk about it and honestly don’t care. They don’t care how you feel about it and they are not even pretending to. It seems more like an apology but in actual sense it is the complete opposite.

I Love you for no reason…

This one has been the trickiest for me to crack even as Dr. Love.. But I gave myself time to understand since I have been hearing it a lot of late. Ideally there’s that thing /those things that draw you to a person, make you attracted to them. It could be their physique, character or dressing… just something that captures your interest in that person.  So if that thing becomes the only thing that keeps your attraction then in that case you don’t actually love the person you only love that one/ those things that drew you to them which could be termed as infatuation. This phrase therefore goes to show true love where it isn’t pegged to a specific thing/ things of which in their absence the attraction ceases. This phrases shows unconditional love.. where the person loves all of you non- discriminatively.

I am not Ready 

Oh yes... they are super ready... just not for you. This is usually like a 'it's me, not you' moment. Letting you down easy while trying to make it seem like its about the timing, someone's mental state, financial status, life goals... literally everything else..but not you. Most of the time they're in an 'it's complicated' relationship at the moment which they aren't exactly keen on letting go of. And you're probably in a friends with benefits situationship something with them at that very moment.  So in short this phrase means, they aren't convinced enough to be in a relationship with you or they just don't see you that way. You're probably the one to have fun with but not the one to build a future with. Basically... it will never be you... they will never be ready to be with you.. This however doesn't necessarily apply to getting intimate since it is based more on one’s outlook on life, what they believe in and societal pressure just to mention a few.

 

 



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