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Subtle Ways Of Always Giving Her Attention



The greatest issue most couples deal with in relationships is attention.
Ladies say their men aren't giving them enough or aren't giving any at all while the guys say their ladies are being needy, not understanding or unappreciative. 
The surprising thing is that it doesn't require great gestures, it's always the little things that count.
So what are the 'little things'...

  • Call

Calling has a way of making someone feel appreciated and special. She gets to hear your voice, your laugh which makes her feel your presence even if you are not there physically. 
Instead of texting her after a long day when you're too exhausted to keep up with the conversation such that it ends up being rushed, cold or left hanging, calling is more engaging, in touch and complete.
All it takes is a phone call.

  • Physical Contact

Nothing beats physical contact. That's why some people are indifferent towards long distance relationships. Try and get some time to actually see her and be with her and when you find the time make sure it is worthwhile, let her enjoy her time with you; make her smile, caress her... just anything to show you appreciate her and how much you long to be with her. Use the time to do what makes her happy and she won't be forgetting it any time soon.
It's not about how long, it's about what you do.

  • Take Note

Remember what she tells you; her opinions, important events in her life, the things she likes. The fact that she tells you something means that she wants you to keep it in your memory. When you remember the little things that she probably didn't expect you to, it'd make her feel like you're giving her lots of attention. It also shows that you care about her and that she is important to you. Remembering amazing experiences you had together also works here.
Keep the memories.

  • Listen

Sometimes she just needs you to listen to her and look like you're doing it. Let her talk and do not try to cut her short or disapprove her when she's talking. Look at her when she's talking, don't be distracted by things in the surrounding or gadgets, make her feel you are interested in what she's saying irregardless of  how you feel about it. Try and respond to what she's told you if it demands a response if not pick out something interesting or funny from what she said and highlight it.
Shut up and listen.

  • PDA

She likes it when you show her how you feel about her in public. Like you are proud of her, appreciate her and are not afraid to show her off. It doesn't have to be a massive gesture, it could just be holding her hand or waist, giving her a peck....anything that shows she's yours and you appreciate her. You could always show affection when it's just the two of you but it's extra special when you do it in public. The feeling she gets is like the whole world stops and all your attention is just on her.
Let the whole world know.

  • Gifting

This is where taking note plays a great role. You're able to remember the things she likes; colours, places, flavours...and use it to your advantage. You are able to gift her successfully and you get points for remembering and gifting. Giving her a gift on days that are special to her also has the same effect. It doesn't have to be something outrageous as long as it's something that plays on her likes, passions and is relevant to her present situation. The act of gifting her in itself is way of giving her attention.
It's the thought that counts.

  • Recognition 

Introduce her to your colleagues, friends, family. This is a way of inviting her into your life and making her part of it. By introducing her, you are showing the people closest to you that she is a special person to you. This way you're giving her attention. She also gets to feel like she's part of your 'inner circle'. The trick here is to introduce her with a title that clearly reveals what she is to you or what you feel for her.
Bring her close.

  • Compliments 

When she accomplishes or achieves something, looks really good, did something you like, puts extra effort.....complimenting her makes her feel like you are paying attention to her since you are able to notice these stuff. It doesn't need to be some long speech that takes hours of preparation. It counts more when you compliment her at that very moment.
Show some appreciation, say something.
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