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THE UNSPOKEN; The Abusive Relationship 2

In most relationships the abusers are men. They usually feel like they own women and therefore have a right to treat them as they wish.
This is what they keep telling themselves...

They provoked me
It was their fault
I was angry
It's not a habit, happened just this once

These are just excuses you tell yourself to justify your actions but this just makes things move from bad to worse.

Here's what you should do;

  • Accept

You have to accept that what you are doing is not right and start looking at them as mistakes.

  • Confront

Face your mistakes and handle them. Lay the blame on yourself instead of the victim and reflect on why it happens and how to prevent it.

  • Be remorseful 

You have to apologize for your mistakes and show remorse by following up with an initiative or resolution to change.

  • Seek help 

You are eventually going to have to accept that you have a problem if it keeps on repeating itself and do something about it.
You could go for counselling or approach your parents or religious leader with the problem.

If you love them you won't hurt them.😏 



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