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THE UNSPOKEN: The Abusive Relationship

This time I focus on much deeper issues in relationships that we are often trying to cover up and people rarely talk about them.

Domestic violence is something that is often kept on the down low … no one talks about it. It is meant to be a silent suffering and speaking of it is abominable and is like ‘airing dirty laundry’.  In most cases, the victims are often the females

In the victim’s perspective this is how it is…….

The first time he hits you, he was not in a good mood,
The second, it was a mistake; he did not mean it
The third time, it was your fault
The next time you’re sure he’ll change

It never ends!!

Action has to be taken before it gets too late and when so much damage has been done.

So what can you do as the victim;……
  • Accept
First you have to accept that what is happening is indeed domestic violence and that it is not right. The first stage of solving any problem is accepting that the problem is actually there.
  • Stop making excuses
Making excuses shows that you are in denial of what is really happening. When he sees you making excuses for him, he won’t stop.
  • Confront him
You have to talk about it with him when it happens, make sure he understands that what he does to you is not right and you could probably try and find out why he does it.
  • Take action
You are eventually gonna have to do something about it; you could talk to someone about it or take some time off and let things cool off.


By doing all this you are preventing it from getting to the point where you have to walk out.
With domestic violence, you have to stand up against it coz it gets worse each time you do nothing about it and it could even lead to death in some cases. This is the more reason why you can’t let it slip when it happens.

When he never shows any signs of remorse afterwards even though you get really really hurt and does not accept that he is wrong, its probably time to walk out coz this dude has no love for you whatsoever and his feelings towards you could be at the point of hate!!
The other thing about domestic violence is that you gotta know when to walk out, when you are trying everything and nothing is working it’s about time to take the bold step.

Stay safe 😘 

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